For all of us dealing with the loss of a loved one, we can seek meaning and comfort through our grief.  How can that possibly be?  “Blessed are those who morn, for they will be comforted”. (Matthew 5:4)  This is Jesus’ promise to us.  Grief can blur our vision and keep us from seeing the hope and comfort that is available to us through God.  Psalm 62:5-6 remind us, “Find rest, O my soul, in God alone; my hope comes from him.  He alone is my rock and my salvation; he is my fortress, I will not be shaken”.  Find your comfort in spending time with God.  Find it in prayer; read the Bible; talk to a fellow Christian; listen to God-pleasing music.  In all of these ways you will stay connected to God and move closer to experiencing peace.
It is not unusual to feel unloved, misunderstood, and alone at times of great grief.  We tend to think that our suffering is ours alone and that it will not help to talk about our loss to anyone.  There is relief, however, in talking to others who have similar experiences and who are still dealing with their grief or who are coming to some sense of acceptance.  The Remembrance and Renewal Grief Support Group is a place where all of us have significant losses and are dealing with our grief at various stages.  It takes longer to heal than most people imagine and no amount of urging from your children, friends, or loved ones “to get over it” will make your recovery faster.  We grieve on our own timeline.  Only you know how deep your love is for your lost one.  It is not unusual to have your grief overcome you at any time-hearing a favorite song, seeing a television program you enjoyed together, attending Mass, or smelling a favorite food or other scent.  The feelings you have are normal and there is comfort in knowing that there are others who will understand your grief if you just talk to them.  Keep your eyes on God and talk to him.  He is living within you and can always be reached.  May God Bless you.