It is somewhat overwhelming  that those of us who have lost a loved one will reach another milestone in that loss.  Another anniversary of that loss will come again this year and we will be faced with remembrance.  As sad as that can be , we will also have the opportunity for renewal.  It is not selfish to think about how we can make our lives better, not just go on.  A renewal means regeneration, rekindling, rebirth, and repair. Look for those things that will make you feel good and take you out of your routine. Maybe there is a hobby you always wanted to try.  Having lost a spouse is a bona fide life stage.  It is, however, a time when there is unlimited potential.  This can be a time for new experiences, making new friends, finding new interests, and exploring your own talents. 
As we move toward the renewal embodied in the Lenten and Easter season, use this time to reflect on your faith and use the beautiful rituals of our Catholic faith to recommit yourself to making the most of the time you have to live the Christian ideals of faith, hope and love.